Step Two Hundred and Fifty-One

Plitvice Lakes National Park, Croatia

Step 251. If I Abide With Knowledge, There Will Be No Confusion In My Relationships.

If Knowledge is not confused, how can you be confused who abide in Knowledge? To abide with Knowledge, however, means that you are not attempting to resolve things, to understand things, to control or to persuade things without Knowledge. You are not attempting to fulfill your specialness by using another to enhance it. You are not attempting to substantiate your errors by casting blame upon another.

With Knowledge there is no confusion in relationships. You know who to be with and who not to be with, and there is no blame in this. You know where to devote yourself and where not to devote yourself, and there is no condemnation in this. You choose this over that, not right over wrong. You go here not there because here is where you must go. How simple this is and how totally effective. This affirms Knowledge in all individuals, and no one is condemned. Here the gates of hell are opened and all are free to return to Knowledge, for the gates of hell are open already, and Knowledge is calling to all who dwell there to return to God. For what is hell but life without God and life without Knowledge? It is life imagined, that is all.

Therefore, receive the call of Knowledge, which is the call of God for you to awaken and participate with life. You can do nothing alone, and your relationships will be clear when you abide with Knowledge. Remember this upon the hour and in your two longer practice periods today, dedicate yourself to actively looking at every single primary relationship involvement that you have had. Recognize in them the frustrations and the confusion, the great expectations and the great disappointments, the bitterness over error, the sense of failure and the projections of blame. Then, realize that with Knowledge none of this need be, for with Knowledge the meaning and purpose of each relationship was recognized at the beginning of your involvement and was affirmed at the end.

Realize in your current relationships that with Knowledge all things will be clear, and you may proceed without guilt or blame and without compulsion or need. With Knowledge you may follow that which is precisely beneficial to you and to your beloved, for all relationships are honored and blessed through Knowledge, and all individuals find their rightful place with one another. In this, each person is honored and his or her Knowledge is confirmed. Let this be your understanding today.

Practice 251: Two 30-minute practice periods. Hourly practice.

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Here you will find pointers for getting started if this is your first encounter with this practice: Taking the Steps to Knowledge.

January 28, 2014 Round One: This is indeed my understanding today. 

Fortunately, I have not wasted much time and energy in my life so far in “frustration and confusion,” in “great expectations and great disappointments,” in feeling “bitterness over error,” in sensing failure and projecting blame, although I have had my moments, I assure you! However, I was so struck by the sentence “realize that with Knowledge none of this need be, for with Knowledge the meaning and purpose of each relationship was recognized at the beginning of your involvement and was affirmed at the end.” This is so true!

"You know who to be with and who not to be with, and there is no blame in this." 

This is just so freeing!

April 14, 2015 Round Two: I continue to experience such empowerment from this Step and it puts my primary relationships into clearer perspective. There is no blame, no condemnation, no disappointment, no errors, for all was and still is guided by Knowledge, and Knowledge knows the meaning and purpose of each relationship. This is so perfect! It is like being doused with fresh spring water and walking out renewed.

March 16, 2019 Round Three: I had a time in the night when I couldn’t sleep thinking about how we were going to get enough money just now to finish building our house and wondering if we were even doing the right thing. Wouldn’t the money be better spent helping the boys? But this morning all doubt has gone again. We have helped enough, now it is our turn to have what we have dreamed about for so long. We have begun the process and there is no going back now. Then I opened this Step. Don’t ya just love it! I am applying this Step specifically now to the situation with our plot. My husband and I are following our dream of having a place in the country and there can be no doubt, confusion, guilt or blame, for this is a Knowledge-guided pursuit and all will be well. In fact, we would regret it if we didn’t see it through. This is the only way to go under the circumstances. And the boys will reap the benefits in the troubled times to come.